3 ways to balance your life


All work and no play makes Jack (or Jill) a dull boy (or girl)

In a world full of opportunity, why do we struggle to balance our lives?

Competing demands at home and work, being available 24/7, wanting to achieve more and more and more....

When did you last think about the direction of your life? Are you heading the right way?  

Why is 'doing' so important?

As an occupational therapist (OT), I studied the impact of 'doing' and 'not doing' on health and well being. Not all occupational therapists give out walking aids and raised toilet seats, it is so much more than that.

Occupation is the stuff we do every day, from the moment we wake up to the moment we sleep. OT's describe it as productivity (work), self care (rest) and leisure (play). 

When everything is working in balance, we're usually happier, healthier and content with our lot. We thrive.

What happens when things go off piste?

Occupational imbalance and deprivation happen when we're unable to do things we want or need to. Sometimes this is due to illness or injury, but not always. The environment can play a part, for example those forcibly deprived of their liberty may not be able to engage in meaningful 'occupation'.

Others can't see the wood for the trees amidst the chaos that is life and battle with fear of failure, success and the unknown. Crippled by procrastination or perfectionism; aspirations appear just out of reach. But it's not all doom and gloom.

Three ways to restore balance

Get clear on your values

There are lots of online tools to help; answer the following questions to get started:

  • What is important to me? 
  • What excites me?
  • What do I enjoy?
  • What am I good at?
  • What do I want to do, be and have?

Take your time and have some fun with it. Think about when you've felt on top of your game. What were you doing? Where were you? 

Find a 'just right' challenge

A just right challenge is a balance between the challenge a task presents and the skills of the person doing it. Too much challenge and we can become frustrated, too little can result in boredom. Get the balance just right and we experience 'flow'. Can you remember the last time you were completely engrossed in an activity, you loved it so much and lost all track of time? You were probably in flow.

Hire a coach or therapist

We all need a nudge in the right direction from time to time. Perhaps you've felt stuck for a while and have tried everything to get back on track. A therapist or coach helps you consider other options, ideas you hadn't thought of before. They hold a mirror up and help you unlock pearls of wisdom lying dormant within. It is powerful.

If this article has resonated with you, why not get in touch for a free, no obligation consultation? Who knows where it might take you?

Warmest wishes,
Posted on September 5, 2018 .

Qualified and raring to go!

Finally...the diploma certificate has arrived in the post...I'm a qualified coach!

It took longer than I expected to complete the training. It's strange to think I almost never started.  Lots of doubts holding me back; I can't afford the course, I don't have time, I'll be rubbish. 

But helping people to help themselves is priceless. Watching the twinkle in someone's eye as they share a nugget of progress and realise they annihilated the invisible barriers which prevented them moving forward. It makes my heart sing...nothing compares.

I'm apprehensive about stretching my comfort zone. I don't know what's going to happen - worst case scenario, nothing. But I realise I don't have to take the plunge...I can dip my toe in the water and see what happens.

I've seen the difference coaching has made to the people I've worked with, you can read their stories for yourself on my website - www.aspire-act-achieve-coaching.com...and it is why I'm writing this post and sharing it with you.

I have something positive to offer in times of great uncertainty. Some people fear asking for help makes them seem weak, but reaching out for support takes strength. Coaching is led by you, you stay in charge...a coach will hold you to account and ask challenging questions, but they won't tell you what to do or impose their opinions.

Sounds good doesn't it? If you think coaching could help you or someone you know to make the difference you can't quite make on your own, then get in touch. I'm offering free sample sessions and would love to hear from you.

Warmest wishes,

Rachel x

Posted on February 4, 2017 .

.......start spreading the news!

It's been a couple of weeks since the website went live and so far there have been 472 page views - it's very exciting! There have also been Facebook 'likes' and inspiring messages of encouragement. Thank you to all who have liked, shared and commented etc. I truly appreciate your support.

Today, a short article about my coaching journey was published in the local village magazine. Most people you speak to say talking to friends, family and acquaintances is one of the most effective ways of getting the message out there, so we'll see.

This morning I received confirmation of my final training day with the Coaching Academy on July 11th, so the end is drawing closer. I can't wait to submit all my work....the culmination of eighteen months of studying and practicing. 

Ultimately, the coaching is what it's all about. I clocked another practice session today. When people gain new insights and understand things from a fresh perspective, it's amazing. You can almost see the possibilities flashing before their eyes and I feel priveliged to share in that process with them.

Look forward to sharing the next chapter with you soon. Thanks for reading.

Rachel x

Posted on June 29, 2015 .

Here we go!!

Well, it wasn't supposed to happen like this, but life is full of surprises.

I met up with an old school friend today; I wanted to pick up some tips about launching my coaching practice. I have procrastinating tendencies and we laughed about these over coffee.

What's stopping me? There is no time like the present and what you resist persists, so here we go!! Open for business. Oh my goodness!

I'm also writing my first article for the village magazine this week, so starting to get the message out there.

Take a look around the website. I hope you like it. 


Posted on June 10, 2015 .

It's evolving

I've done some more work on the website....it's getting there.

Having so much fun putting my stamp on it and can't wait to launch in a few weeks. Social media is so powerful these days and you've got to be in it to win it.

I've been considering some useful links and resources to add to the website. Reading a great book at the moment called 'The Art of Being Brilliant' by Andy Cope and Andy Whittaker. It is hilarious and I love the illustrations; it's packed with no nonsense, common sense ideas without the jargon. I love it.



Posted on May 9, 2015 .

It's really happening......

I never thought the day would come when I began building my own website.....for my own coaching practice. Even saying the words out loud sounds a bit foreign; however, this is what I'm doing and it feels great.

It was just over a year ago when I set out on the journey to become a coach. It nearly didn't happen. Those limiting beliefs were lurking nearby, telling me I couldn't do it and who was I to think I could try. Thank goodness I didn't listen. What an experience it has been?

I've loved coaching friends and acquaintances during my training and now it's time to put myself out there in the big wide world. If it's half as much fun as it has been so far, I'm going to have a ball!!


Posted on March 14, 2015 .